It is important to refresh your memory on the etiquette of this sublime outdoor
cooking activity. When a man volunteers to do the BBQ the following chain of events
are put into motion:
Routine...
(1) The woman buys the food.
(2) The woman makes the salad, prepares the vegetables, and makes dessert.
(3) The woman prepares the meat for cooking, places it on a tray along with the
necessary cooking utensils and sauces, and takes it to the man who is lounging
beside the grill - beer in hand.
(4) The woman remains outside the compulsory three-meter exclusion zone where the
exuberance of testosterone and other manly bonding activities can take place without
the interference of the woman.
Here comes the important part:
(5) THE MAN PLACES THE MEAT ON THE GRILL.
More routine...
(6) The woman goes inside to organize the plates and cutlery.
(7) The woman comes out to tell the man that the meat is looking great. He thanks
her and asks if she will bring another beer while he flips the meat
Important again:
(8) THE MAN TAKES THE MEAT OFF THE GRILL AND HANDS IT TO THE WOMAN.
More routine...
(9) The woman prepares the plates, salad, bread, utensils, napkins, sauces, and
brings them to the table.
(10) After eating, the woman clears the table and does the dishes.
And most important of all:
(11) Everyone PRAISES the MAN and THANKS HIM for his cooking efforts.
(12) The man asks the woman how she enjoyed 'her night off', and, upon seeing her
annoyed reaction, concludes that there's just no pleasing some women.
Tuesday, 28 July 2009
Saturday, 25 July 2009
do you want...?
Do you want true financial independence and constant tax-free income?
Do you want to be in a totally loving, mutually supportive relationship?
Do you want to achieve states of pleasure previously unimaginable?
Do you want to start sleeping with your SO, instead of your PC?
Do you want to look better, feel better, run faster and jump higher?
Do you want to cleanse all Karma, and tap into infinite creative power?
Do you want to bring universal healing and happiness to all around you?
Do you want the Secret of Secrets - the Answer to Your Greatest Dreams?
Do you want to find a few of those unmarked bags of cash on the street?
Do you want the total effect of 10,000 cups of coffee in one minute?
Do you want to be in a totally loving, mutually supportive relationship?
Do you want to achieve states of pleasure previously unimaginable?
Do you want to start sleeping with your SO, instead of your PC?
Do you want to look better, feel better, run faster and jump higher?
Do you want to cleanse all Karma, and tap into infinite creative power?
Do you want to bring universal healing and happiness to all around you?
Do you want the Secret of Secrets - the Answer to Your Greatest Dreams?
Do you want to find a few of those unmarked bags of cash on the street?
Do you want the total effect of 10,000 cups of coffee in one minute?
Friday, 24 July 2009
antibiotics
It may not be an ideal topic for polite conversation, but human beings are swarming with bacteria: Even the average healthy adult plays host to about 100 trillion microscopic organisms. Infection takes place when the bacteria get out of hand.
Now, a University of Kansas researcher has penned a history of the struggle between man and bacteria — and warns that humankind someday may lose its advantage.
In the March 28 issue of the American Chemical Society’s Journal of Natural Products, Lester A. Mitscher, a University Distinguished Professor of Medicinal Chemistry, calls for the development of more potent antibiotics necessary for humanity to manage drug-resistant breeds of microbes.
“Antibiotics are essentially selective poisons that kill bacteria and that do not kill us,” Mitscher said.
In his article, “Coevolution: Mankind and Microbes,” Mitscher chronicles the advent of antibiotics in the 20th century. Sulfonamides, the first anti-infectives, were introduced the mid-1930s. Penicillin — “the first true antibiotic” — was employed widely during World War II. In the decades since, dozens of important antibiotics have been developed and marketed around the world.
“These were called ‘miracle drugs,’ ” said Mitscher. “Unfortunately, that had a downside. They were so relatively safe and so effective that we became careless in their use and in our personal habits. That has caused much of the resistance phenomenon we have today.”
Microbial resistance to these drugs has been an ever-increasing problem because of the speedy reproduction and evolution of microorganisms.
“Bacteria that survive the initial onslaught of antibiotics then are increasingly resistant to them,” said Mitscher. “The sensitive proportion of the bacterial population dies, but then the survivors multiply quickly — and they are less sensitive to antibiotics. The sensitivity goes all the way from requiring a longer course of therapy or a higher dose, to being totally unaffected by the antibiotic.”
Humans have overused antibiotics in areas such as agriculture, worsening the dilemma of highly resistant bacteria.
“People are surprised to learn that almost half of all the antibiotics produced in the world are used in animal husbandry,” said Mitscher. “I’m not referring to using antibiotics for curing infections of animals — what I mean is use of antibiotics in relatively small doses as an animal-feed supplement. Animals then grow quicker to a marketable size, and this is seen as a universal good. The difficulty is that use of antibiotics in that setting is an invitation towards resistance. Unfortunately, humans get infected with resistant strains that were generated in animals in this manner.”
These days, with so-called “super-bugs” like Methacillin-resistant Staphylococcus aureus (MRSA) making news, resistance is becoming a major public health problem.
“Resistance that started in a hospital setting quickly spread into the community, and now resistance is essentially all around us,” Mitscher said. “That does not mean to say we’re all going to die in agony in the immediate future. But this is an important phenomenon that needs to be addressed more carefully than we have in the past.”
Part of the solution is to use antibiotics sparingly for industrial, agricultural and medical purposes. When an antibiotic is called for to treat an infection the best one should be used with appropriate intensity.
Mitscher said that drug corporations must develop antibiotics with the potential not only to kill microbes but also to inhibit their ability to mutate. These new drugs would be made more effective still if they enlisted the body’s own immune system to battle infections.
Alas, because of the economics of the drug industry, Mitscher said such “triple treat” antibiotics might be a long time coming.
“The pace of antibiotic discovery has fallen off, partly because the intensive research on them has lead to increasingly diminishing returns,” said Mitscher. “Pharmaceutical firms have, for a variety of commercial reasons, de-emphasized antibiotic research in recent decades.”
or what about this solution?
In the early part of this century, Colloidal Silver was used as a mainstream therapy until modern antibiotics came along; Silver was the primary antibiotic used by the wealthy before the advent of penicillin. With many organisms now resistant to antibiotic therapy and antibiotics causing numerous side effects; more and more people are turning to Colloidal Silver to treat a range of infections in a natural, balanced way.
Now, a University of Kansas researcher has penned a history of the struggle between man and bacteria — and warns that humankind someday may lose its advantage.
In the March 28 issue of the American Chemical Society’s Journal of Natural Products, Lester A. Mitscher, a University Distinguished Professor of Medicinal Chemistry, calls for the development of more potent antibiotics necessary for humanity to manage drug-resistant breeds of microbes.
“Antibiotics are essentially selective poisons that kill bacteria and that do not kill us,” Mitscher said.
In his article, “Coevolution: Mankind and Microbes,” Mitscher chronicles the advent of antibiotics in the 20th century. Sulfonamides, the first anti-infectives, were introduced the mid-1930s. Penicillin — “the first true antibiotic” — was employed widely during World War II. In the decades since, dozens of important antibiotics have been developed and marketed around the world.
“These were called ‘miracle drugs,’ ” said Mitscher. “Unfortunately, that had a downside. They were so relatively safe and so effective that we became careless in their use and in our personal habits. That has caused much of the resistance phenomenon we have today.”
Microbial resistance to these drugs has been an ever-increasing problem because of the speedy reproduction and evolution of microorganisms.
“Bacteria that survive the initial onslaught of antibiotics then are increasingly resistant to them,” said Mitscher. “The sensitive proportion of the bacterial population dies, but then the survivors multiply quickly — and they are less sensitive to antibiotics. The sensitivity goes all the way from requiring a longer course of therapy or a higher dose, to being totally unaffected by the antibiotic.”
Humans have overused antibiotics in areas such as agriculture, worsening the dilemma of highly resistant bacteria.
“People are surprised to learn that almost half of all the antibiotics produced in the world are used in animal husbandry,” said Mitscher. “I’m not referring to using antibiotics for curing infections of animals — what I mean is use of antibiotics in relatively small doses as an animal-feed supplement. Animals then grow quicker to a marketable size, and this is seen as a universal good. The difficulty is that use of antibiotics in that setting is an invitation towards resistance. Unfortunately, humans get infected with resistant strains that were generated in animals in this manner.”
These days, with so-called “super-bugs” like Methacillin-resistant Staphylococcus aureus (MRSA) making news, resistance is becoming a major public health problem.
“Resistance that started in a hospital setting quickly spread into the community, and now resistance is essentially all around us,” Mitscher said. “That does not mean to say we’re all going to die in agony in the immediate future. But this is an important phenomenon that needs to be addressed more carefully than we have in the past.”
Part of the solution is to use antibiotics sparingly for industrial, agricultural and medical purposes. When an antibiotic is called for to treat an infection the best one should be used with appropriate intensity.
Mitscher said that drug corporations must develop antibiotics with the potential not only to kill microbes but also to inhibit their ability to mutate. These new drugs would be made more effective still if they enlisted the body’s own immune system to battle infections.
Alas, because of the economics of the drug industry, Mitscher said such “triple treat” antibiotics might be a long time coming.
“The pace of antibiotic discovery has fallen off, partly because the intensive research on them has lead to increasingly diminishing returns,” said Mitscher. “Pharmaceutical firms have, for a variety of commercial reasons, de-emphasized antibiotic research in recent decades.”
or what about this solution?
In the early part of this century, Colloidal Silver was used as a mainstream therapy until modern antibiotics came along; Silver was the primary antibiotic used by the wealthy before the advent of penicillin. With many organisms now resistant to antibiotic therapy and antibiotics causing numerous side effects; more and more people are turning to Colloidal Silver to treat a range of infections in a natural, balanced way.
Friday, 17 July 2009
Chiropractic is founded on "Tone"
Chiropractic is based on the principle of Tone.
What we do is allow normal tone to occur. To allow the restoration of the brain-body connection. To allow that nerve system, free of interference, to more fully express Life Energy, so that every cell can know and perform its task for the good of the whole. And as that person assimilates the lesson held within the energy and information stored as subluxation, they heal. They grow. They evolve. And their friends, families and aquaintences benefit from the change.
What we do is far more than put people's pain to sleep. We allow life to awaken. We bring forth in every individual that which will cause the world to heal. To move in a better direction. To allow the restoration of natural processes on the planet by making one more person less of a problem and more of a solution.
George Rhodes DC
What we do is allow normal tone to occur. To allow the restoration of the brain-body connection. To allow that nerve system, free of interference, to more fully express Life Energy, so that every cell can know and perform its task for the good of the whole. And as that person assimilates the lesson held within the energy and information stored as subluxation, they heal. They grow. They evolve. And their friends, families and aquaintences benefit from the change.
What we do is far more than put people's pain to sleep. We allow life to awaken. We bring forth in every individual that which will cause the world to heal. To move in a better direction. To allow the restoration of natural processes on the planet by making one more person less of a problem and more of a solution.
George Rhodes DC
Thursday, 16 July 2009
swine flu
Chiropractors helping patients battle the flu is not a new occurrence:
During the 1917-18 influenza epidemic, which brought death and fear to many Americans, it has been estimated that 20 million people died throughout the world, including about 500,000 Americans. It was chiropractic’s success in caring for flu victims that led to the profession’s licensure in many states.
Researchers reported that in Davenport, Iowa, out of the 93,590 patients treated by medical doctors, there were 6,116 deaths -- a loss of one patient out of every 15. Chiropractors at the Palmer School of Chiropractic adjusted 1,635 cases, with only one death. Outside Davenport, chiropractors in Iowa cared for 4,735 cases with only six deaths -- one out of 866. During the same epidemic, in Oklahoma, out of 3,490 flu patients under chiropractic care, there were only seven deaths. Furthermore, chiropractors were called in 233 cases given up as lost after medical treatment, and reportedly saved all but 25. In another report covering 4,193 cases by 213 chiropractors 4,104 showed complete recovery.
“These results are not so surprising given what we now know about the interaction between the nervous system and the immune system” stated Dr. Matthew McCoy, WCA Board member and Editor of the Journal of Vertebral Subluxation Research. “Through research we know that chiropractic has beneficial effects on immunoglobulins, B-lymphocytes (white blood cells), pulmonary function and other immune system processes.”
Chiropractic corrects spinal abnormalities called vertebral subluxations that result in interference of the nervous system by placing pressure on nerves. Since the nervous system controls all functions of the body -- including the immune system -- chiropractic care can have a positive effect on immune function, WCA officials note.
During the 1917-18 influenza epidemic, which brought death and fear to many Americans, it has been estimated that 20 million people died throughout the world, including about 500,000 Americans. It was chiropractic’s success in caring for flu victims that led to the profession’s licensure in many states.
Researchers reported that in Davenport, Iowa, out of the 93,590 patients treated by medical doctors, there were 6,116 deaths -- a loss of one patient out of every 15. Chiropractors at the Palmer School of Chiropractic adjusted 1,635 cases, with only one death. Outside Davenport, chiropractors in Iowa cared for 4,735 cases with only six deaths -- one out of 866. During the same epidemic, in Oklahoma, out of 3,490 flu patients under chiropractic care, there were only seven deaths. Furthermore, chiropractors were called in 233 cases given up as lost after medical treatment, and reportedly saved all but 25. In another report covering 4,193 cases by 213 chiropractors 4,104 showed complete recovery.
“These results are not so surprising given what we now know about the interaction between the nervous system and the immune system” stated Dr. Matthew McCoy, WCA Board member and Editor of the Journal of Vertebral Subluxation Research. “Through research we know that chiropractic has beneficial effects on immunoglobulins, B-lymphocytes (white blood cells), pulmonary function and other immune system processes.”
Chiropractic corrects spinal abnormalities called vertebral subluxations that result in interference of the nervous system by placing pressure on nerves. Since the nervous system controls all functions of the body -- including the immune system -- chiropractic care can have a positive effect on immune function, WCA officials note.
Saturday, 11 July 2009
grunt and growl and grizzly bear training
NOte: the grizzly bear training is similar to Dr Al Sears PACE programe.
GRUNT AND GROWL STRENGTH TRAINING
(Grunt and Growl Strength Training should be done 1-3 times weekly, and is most effective if accompanied by 1-3 Grizzly Bear Interval workouts weekly.)
Getting Started:
Determining the weight to use for each exercise. (This procedure is done on your first workout day, and need never to be repeated unless someday you have stopped exercising for some reason and are getting re-started.)
For each exercise listed below, make your best guess on your maximum single attempt lift and try to lift it.
If too heavy to lift, lighten up; if too easy to lift, add more weight. Attempt another lift.
Repeat to find the weight you can just barely lift one time.
Multiply by 0.7. This is your workout weight for that exercise.
NOTE: On your first workout, all you will do is determine your workout weight for all your exercises.
Grunt and Growl Strength Training Routine:
You will alternate between workouts A and B below.
The exercises should be performed in the order listed.
Each repetition is done at a rate of 25 degrees per second on the concentric contraction and 70-100 degrees per second on the eccentric contraction.
(*This is the most important component of Grunt and Growl Strength Training.) Do as many reps as you possibly can --- grunt and growl as much as you need to to squeeze out just one more rep. This way you know you’ve gotten the most anabolic stimulus possible from this exercise. That point of total momentary exhaustion is your moment of victory. [Note that the number of reps required to reach exhaustion will be different for different exercises. This is because you have your own unique proportions of fast and slow twitch fibers in the various muscles of your body.]
As the weeks go by, you will find that the number of reps required to reach exhaustion for the various exercises will increase. When that number of reps has increased by 2, it is time to increase your workout weight for that exercise by about 10 percent.
EXERCISES:
Workout A
Leg Press or Squats
Pec/Delt Press
Lateral Raise
(Optional) Tricep Kick-backs (cable (not dumbbell))
(Optional) Roman Chair
Workout B
Leg Extension's
Leg Curl
Pulldowns or Chin-ups
Reverse Flies or Bent Over Rowing
(Optional) Bicep Curl (cable (not dumbbell or barbell)
GRIZZLY BEAR INTERVALS
(Grizzly Bear Intervals should be done 1-3 times weekly, and are more effective if accompanied by 1-3 Grunt and Growl Strength Training workouts weekly.)
You may choose running, bicycling, swimming, cross country skiing or other “aerobics” exercise contraption for your Grizzly Bear Interval Training. The key to success is putting out high intensity bursts of speed lasting 30-90 seconds. [NOTE: “High intensity” is a relative term. Output that might be high intensity for one person might seem an easy cruise for another.]
Pretend there is a grizzly bear chasing you. Take off at nearly full speed and go like crazy until you feel as if you’d rather be Mr. Grizzly’s lunch than go another second. At that point (which should be at the end of a 30-90 second burst) stop. In precisely 60 seconds take your 15 second pulse. Go right into your next Grizzly Bear chase, repeating the cycle until you see a pulse that is clearly not recovering. Go home and feel powerful.
Example:
45 second run – stop for 60 seconds – take pulse for 15 seconds = 30 beats
45 second run – stop for 60 seconds – take pulse for 15 seconds = 31 beats
45 second run – stop for 60 seconds – take pulse for 15 seconds = 32 beats
45 second run – stop for 60 seconds – take pulse for 15 seconds = 32 beats
45 second run – stop for 60 seconds – take pulse for 15 seconds = 33 beats
45 second run – stop for 60 seconds – take pulse for 15 seconds = 37 beats
Stop - enough for today. You have finished your Interval training for the day.
The key is to look for a pulse which changes dramatically from the trend line from the previous series of pulses. When it is different, you have reached the point where your heart rate is not recovering sufficiently to continue and you should stop for the day.
Keep your time consistent with each cycle. If you start out with 60 seconds on the first cycle, stay at 60 seconds for all the cycles that day. You also need to stay consistent with the intensity and/or distance. Don’t go all out one time and then dog it the next. You may vary the time with each workout, but always stay between 30-90 seconds for your high intensity bursts.
(get your doctor's advice before starting this, or any other exercise program)
GRUNT AND GROWL STRENGTH TRAINING
(Grunt and Growl Strength Training should be done 1-3 times weekly, and is most effective if accompanied by 1-3 Grizzly Bear Interval workouts weekly.)
Getting Started:
Determining the weight to use for each exercise. (This procedure is done on your first workout day, and need never to be repeated unless someday you have stopped exercising for some reason and are getting re-started.)
For each exercise listed below, make your best guess on your maximum single attempt lift and try to lift it.
If too heavy to lift, lighten up; if too easy to lift, add more weight. Attempt another lift.
Repeat to find the weight you can just barely lift one time.
Multiply by 0.7. This is your workout weight for that exercise.
NOTE: On your first workout, all you will do is determine your workout weight for all your exercises.
Grunt and Growl Strength Training Routine:
You will alternate between workouts A and B below.
The exercises should be performed in the order listed.
Each repetition is done at a rate of 25 degrees per second on the concentric contraction and 70-100 degrees per second on the eccentric contraction.
(*This is the most important component of Grunt and Growl Strength Training.) Do as many reps as you possibly can --- grunt and growl as much as you need to to squeeze out just one more rep. This way you know you’ve gotten the most anabolic stimulus possible from this exercise. That point of total momentary exhaustion is your moment of victory. [Note that the number of reps required to reach exhaustion will be different for different exercises. This is because you have your own unique proportions of fast and slow twitch fibers in the various muscles of your body.]
As the weeks go by, you will find that the number of reps required to reach exhaustion for the various exercises will increase. When that number of reps has increased by 2, it is time to increase your workout weight for that exercise by about 10 percent.
EXERCISES:
Workout A
Leg Press or Squats
Pec/Delt Press
Lateral Raise
(Optional) Tricep Kick-backs (cable (not dumbbell))
(Optional) Roman Chair
Workout B
Leg Extension's
Leg Curl
Pulldowns or Chin-ups
Reverse Flies or Bent Over Rowing
(Optional) Bicep Curl (cable (not dumbbell or barbell)
GRIZZLY BEAR INTERVALS
(Grizzly Bear Intervals should be done 1-3 times weekly, and are more effective if accompanied by 1-3 Grunt and Growl Strength Training workouts weekly.)
You may choose running, bicycling, swimming, cross country skiing or other “aerobics” exercise contraption for your Grizzly Bear Interval Training. The key to success is putting out high intensity bursts of speed lasting 30-90 seconds. [NOTE: “High intensity” is a relative term. Output that might be high intensity for one person might seem an easy cruise for another.]
Pretend there is a grizzly bear chasing you. Take off at nearly full speed and go like crazy until you feel as if you’d rather be Mr. Grizzly’s lunch than go another second. At that point (which should be at the end of a 30-90 second burst) stop. In precisely 60 seconds take your 15 second pulse. Go right into your next Grizzly Bear chase, repeating the cycle until you see a pulse that is clearly not recovering. Go home and feel powerful.
Example:
45 second run – stop for 60 seconds – take pulse for 15 seconds = 30 beats
45 second run – stop for 60 seconds – take pulse for 15 seconds = 31 beats
45 second run – stop for 60 seconds – take pulse for 15 seconds = 32 beats
45 second run – stop for 60 seconds – take pulse for 15 seconds = 32 beats
45 second run – stop for 60 seconds – take pulse for 15 seconds = 33 beats
45 second run – stop for 60 seconds – take pulse for 15 seconds = 37 beats
Stop - enough for today. You have finished your Interval training for the day.
The key is to look for a pulse which changes dramatically from the trend line from the previous series of pulses. When it is different, you have reached the point where your heart rate is not recovering sufficiently to continue and you should stop for the day.
Keep your time consistent with each cycle. If you start out with 60 seconds on the first cycle, stay at 60 seconds for all the cycles that day. You also need to stay consistent with the intensity and/or distance. Don’t go all out one time and then dog it the next. You may vary the time with each workout, but always stay between 30-90 seconds for your high intensity bursts.
(get your doctor's advice before starting this, or any other exercise program)
Most Unusual Therapist
by Dr. Joe Vitale
www.mrfire.com
Two years ago, I heard about a therapist in Hawaii who cured a complete ward of criminally insane patients--without ever seeing any of them. The psychologist would study an inmate's chart and then look within himself to see how he created that person's illness. As he improved himself, the patient improved.
When I first heard this story, I thought it was an urban legend. How could anyone heal anyone else by healing himself? How could even the best self-improvement master cure the criminally insane?
It didn't make any sense. It wasn't logical, so I dismissed the story.
However, I heard it again a year later. I heard that the therapist had used a Hawaiian healing process called ho 'oponopono. I had never heard of it, yet I couldn't let it leave my mind. If the story was at all true, I had to know more.
I had always understood "total responsibility" to mean that I am responsible for what I think and do. Beyond that, it's out of my hands. I think that most people think of total responsibility that way. We're responsible for what we do, not what anyone else does. The Hawaiian therapist who healed those mentally ill people would teach me an advanced new perspective about total responsibility.
His name is Dr. Ihaleakala Hew Len. We probably spent an hour talking on our first phone call. I asked him to tell me the complete story of his work as a therapist. He explained that he worked at Hawaii State Hospital for four years. That ward where they kept the criminally insane was dangerous. Psychologists quit on a monthly basis. The staff called in sick a lot or simply quit. People would walk through that ward with their backs against the wall, afraid of being attacked by patients. It was not a pleasant place to live, work, or visit.
Dr. Len told me that he never saw patients. He agreed to have an office and to review their files. While he looked at those files, he would work on himself. As he worked on himself, patients began to heal.
"After a few months, patients that had to be shackled were being allowed to walk freely," he told me. "Others who had to be heavily medicated were getting off their medications. And those who had no chance of ever being released were being freed."
I was in awe.
"Not only that," he went on, "but the staff began to enjoy coming to work. Absenteeism and turnover disappeared. We ended up with more staff than we needed because patients were being released, and all the staff was showing up to work. Today, that ward is closed."
This is where I had to ask the million dollar question: "What were you doing within yourself that caused those people to change?"
"I was simply healing the part of me that created them," he said.
I didn't understand.
Dr. Len explained that total responsibility for your life means that everything in your life - simply because it is in your life--is your responsibility. In a literal sense the entire world is your creation.
Whew. This is tough to swallow. Being responsible for what I say or do is one thing. Being responsible for what everyone in my life says or does is quite another. Yet, the truth is this: if you take complete responsibility for your life, then everything you see, hear, taste, touch, or in any way experience is your responsibility because it is in your life.
This means that terrorist activity, the president, the economy--anything you experience and don't like--is up for you to heal. They don't exist, in a manner of speaking, except as projections from inside you. The problem isn't with them, it's with you, and to change them, you have to change you.
I know this is tough to grasp, let alone accept or actually live. Blame is far easier than total responsibility, but as I spoke with Dr. Len, I began to realize that healing for him and in ho 'oponopono means loving yourself. If you want to improve your life, you have to heal your life. If you want to cure anyone--even a mentally ill criminal--you do it by healing you.
I asked Dr. Len how he went about healing himself. What was he doing, exactly, when he looked at those patients' files?
"I just kept saying, 'I'm sorry' and 'I love you' over and over again," he explained.
That's it?
That's it.
Turns out that loving yourself is the greatest way to improve yourself, and as you improve yourself, your improve your world.
www.mrfire.com
Two years ago, I heard about a therapist in Hawaii who cured a complete ward of criminally insane patients--without ever seeing any of them. The psychologist would study an inmate's chart and then look within himself to see how he created that person's illness. As he improved himself, the patient improved.
When I first heard this story, I thought it was an urban legend. How could anyone heal anyone else by healing himself? How could even the best self-improvement master cure the criminally insane?
It didn't make any sense. It wasn't logical, so I dismissed the story.
However, I heard it again a year later. I heard that the therapist had used a Hawaiian healing process called ho 'oponopono. I had never heard of it, yet I couldn't let it leave my mind. If the story was at all true, I had to know more.
I had always understood "total responsibility" to mean that I am responsible for what I think and do. Beyond that, it's out of my hands. I think that most people think of total responsibility that way. We're responsible for what we do, not what anyone else does. The Hawaiian therapist who healed those mentally ill people would teach me an advanced new perspective about total responsibility.
His name is Dr. Ihaleakala Hew Len. We probably spent an hour talking on our first phone call. I asked him to tell me the complete story of his work as a therapist. He explained that he worked at Hawaii State Hospital for four years. That ward where they kept the criminally insane was dangerous. Psychologists quit on a monthly basis. The staff called in sick a lot or simply quit. People would walk through that ward with their backs against the wall, afraid of being attacked by patients. It was not a pleasant place to live, work, or visit.
Dr. Len told me that he never saw patients. He agreed to have an office and to review their files. While he looked at those files, he would work on himself. As he worked on himself, patients began to heal.
"After a few months, patients that had to be shackled were being allowed to walk freely," he told me. "Others who had to be heavily medicated were getting off their medications. And those who had no chance of ever being released were being freed."
I was in awe.
"Not only that," he went on, "but the staff began to enjoy coming to work. Absenteeism and turnover disappeared. We ended up with more staff than we needed because patients were being released, and all the staff was showing up to work. Today, that ward is closed."
This is where I had to ask the million dollar question: "What were you doing within yourself that caused those people to change?"
"I was simply healing the part of me that created them," he said.
I didn't understand.
Dr. Len explained that total responsibility for your life means that everything in your life - simply because it is in your life--is your responsibility. In a literal sense the entire world is your creation.
Whew. This is tough to swallow. Being responsible for what I say or do is one thing. Being responsible for what everyone in my life says or does is quite another. Yet, the truth is this: if you take complete responsibility for your life, then everything you see, hear, taste, touch, or in any way experience is your responsibility because it is in your life.
This means that terrorist activity, the president, the economy--anything you experience and don't like--is up for you to heal. They don't exist, in a manner of speaking, except as projections from inside you. The problem isn't with them, it's with you, and to change them, you have to change you.
I know this is tough to grasp, let alone accept or actually live. Blame is far easier than total responsibility, but as I spoke with Dr. Len, I began to realize that healing for him and in ho 'oponopono means loving yourself. If you want to improve your life, you have to heal your life. If you want to cure anyone--even a mentally ill criminal--you do it by healing you.
I asked Dr. Len how he went about healing himself. What was he doing, exactly, when he looked at those patients' files?
"I just kept saying, 'I'm sorry' and 'I love you' over and over again," he explained.
That's it?
That's it.
Turns out that loving yourself is the greatest way to improve yourself, and as you improve yourself, your improve your world.
Friday, 10 July 2009
What Every Person Needs
Inspirational Speech/Poem
What Every Person Needs ...
by Silvia Hartmann
What we all need as human beings
is really, just
one single person
to be absolutely on our side.
Someone who has faith in us,
someone to really love us as we are,
no questions asked,
without reservations
or judgements of any kind;
Just a single person
who will always be there
to help us, protect us;
To inspire us, applaud us
when we have succeeded in something,
no matter how insignificant
it may seem to an outsider;
Someone who will encourage us
to strive towards
the best we can possibly be,
and always, always cheer us on;
Someone who cannot ever be tempted away
by youth, beauty, money, bribes
and will always choose us,
every day, each moment afresh;
someone to stand by us
when everything falls apart,
who will love us no matter what;
Someone who will never let us down,
never give up on us,
never leave us
and who will always, always
be fiercely and actively loving of us
in every way, every day,
until we take our last breath in physicality.
Well, that person is here.
It is you.
And now, finally, we can start
on the road to be that person
we always knew we should have been -
with a little help from our self,
our endlessly loving totality.
What Every Person Needs ...
by Silvia Hartmann
What we all need as human beings
is really, just
one single person
to be absolutely on our side.
Someone who has faith in us,
someone to really love us as we are,
no questions asked,
without reservations
or judgements of any kind;
Just a single person
who will always be there
to help us, protect us;
To inspire us, applaud us
when we have succeeded in something,
no matter how insignificant
it may seem to an outsider;
Someone who will encourage us
to strive towards
the best we can possibly be,
and always, always cheer us on;
Someone who cannot ever be tempted away
by youth, beauty, money, bribes
and will always choose us,
every day, each moment afresh;
someone to stand by us
when everything falls apart,
who will love us no matter what;
Someone who will never let us down,
never give up on us,
never leave us
and who will always, always
be fiercely and actively loving of us
in every way, every day,
until we take our last breath in physicality.
Well, that person is here.
It is you.
And now, finally, we can start
on the road to be that person
we always knew we should have been -
with a little help from our self,
our endlessly loving totality.
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